My experience of Anger


A.C. has been working with Autism NI through the SELF Project, a mentoring programme for young people with Autism. A.C struggled to understand and cope with his emotions, but after lots of discussion and work around this area, he made a resource for other young people to learn about how to cope with anger and frustration:


Anger is an emotion that can happen for a lot of reasons.

A person might get angry at another person (for example, someone spilling a drink), an object or activity (for example, losing a game on the xbox) or something that has made them angry in the past.

We can tell that we are angry because of the way our bodies feel. When people get angry, they might:

  • Have a clenched jaw or fists
  • Feel hot and have a red face
  • Have sweaty hands
  • Find it hard to concentrate
  • Frown or look sad
  • Breathing and heart beat gets faster

It is okay to feel angry sometimes.

It’s not okay to hurt people or damage things when you are angry because you can get into trouble and people could be upset with you.

There are lots of things a person can do to calm down when they are angry:

  • Go to your room to take a break
  • Do something you like, for example, listening to music
  • Take deep breaths and count to 10
  • Talk to a trusted adult about how you feel (like a family member or a teacher)

If you feel angry, doing these activities can help you to calm down, and feel relaxed and happy.